Being and introverted INFJ, sometimes I feel like I don’t do “big things”, which is ok, but I don’t want to look back and realize that I’ve lived a small life. I may be in my 40s, but there are still things I want to do. Bucket lists are fine for that, but there are times when they feel like it’s more of a “to do list” hanging over my head, haunting me with the fact that I still haven’t done them. This can make me feel unaccomplished when the items don’t get crossed off in a timely manner. Buckets […]
Setting Boundaries to Protect the INFJ Relationship
Most INFJs are all about people, so it’s no surprise that I’ve struggled with setting boundaries with certain people in my life. Unfortunately, this can breed resentment and even avoidance, in some cases, so it’s better to deal with it rather than internalizing it, as many INFJ personality types often do. I want you to consider the people in your life that you struggle to be around. The ones who are repeatedly hurtful or harmful, whether it is intentional or not. You may already feel trepidatious around these people, and that is a clue that you need to set boundaries to […]
The INFJ Door Slam: What happened?
I’m an INFJ, and I’ve been on the giving end of the infamous INFJ door slam, but I have never been on the receiving end. You may be here because you’re an INFJ considering this tactic, but more likely, you’re here because you’ve been shut out by your INFJ and you have no idea why. Hopefully, I can help you understand what might’ve happened. What’s an INFJ door slam? The INFJ Door Slam is a common phrase used to describe a person with the INFJ personality type cutting someone out of their life, usually for good. It may seem like […]
Why Being Highly Sensitive is Awesome
There are some really great things about being highly sensitive. It’s sometimes very difficult to differentiate my INFJ personality from my highly sensitive nature, though, because they overlap each other at times, but I’d like to talk about the best parts of being a highly sensitive person (HSP). Being an HSP is both a blessing and a curse. My emotions can quickly get the best of me, which can lead to arguments, worry and sleepless nights. The physical sensitivities can be anything from a minor environmental annoyance to having negative reactions to coffee, pills, or even food. We are sensitive […]
10 Ways Introverts are Like Cats
From what I read online, many introverts, like myself, have cats. I did not know that, and, as it turns out, I have always had a cat. It never occurred to me that maybe I was drawn to them because we were so similar to each other, but it dawned on me the other day – cats are crazy introverted. As I watched her curl up under the dining room table last week, like she always does during the day, I started thinking about her routine, habits, and idiosyncrasies. They are more than a little interesting, but somewhat predictable, after […]
What to Avoid Saying to an HSP
Even though this post is focused on what you should avoid saying to an HSP, it also makes a point on what to say or do in place of these thoughtless comments. Communicating with a highly sensitive person takes a lighter touch, gentler words, and love. Also please understand that most of the guidance mentioned here applies to anyone and everyone. Being upset about anything, whether you understand it or not, deserves a little bit of kindness and compassion. I know it can be hard to muster up in a heated situation, but take a break and walk away if […]
Over 75 of the Best Gifts for Introverts
If you have an introvert in your life, you might find it a little tedious to find them the perfect gift, or something they don’t already have. Being an introvert myself, I don’t think I’m especially hard to shop for, but according to the people in my life, I am. I think “picky” is the word they used for me, so I though it might be helpful to put together a list of gifts for introverts that aren’t necessarily exclusive to them, but might be loved by one. Some of these gifts are unisex and some will be more geared […]
42 Genuinely Promising INFJ Self Care Ideas
Self-care is not unique to INFJs, but many introverts require a little extra self-care due to our natural tendencies towards anxiety, depression, and stress. These emotional or psychological issues tend to develop into physical ones, especially for the INFJ, so it’s important to be self-aware and preventative. *Disclaimer: As an Amazon Associate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases. This post contains affiliate links, which means you may be contributing to my tea-drinking addiction if you purchase goods through these links. 😉 Realizing that we deserve to take time for ourselves is sometimes the first step. I know that as an INFJ, […]