Making Friends with an INFJ (or other introverted personality type)

How an INFJ can make friends.

As an INFJ, it can be difficult to make friends because we’re already highly selective of who we choose to befriend, and tend to be better listeners than conversationalists. That is, unless you get us talking about something you know we’re passionate about. Of course, you’d have to know us well enough to know our passions. I know. It’s a conundrum. So, how do you really get to know an INFJ to the point of creating a friendship? And, how can an INFJ get out of their own way to make a new and meaningful friendship? INFJs Tend to Play it […]

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Being an INFJ Mother is Mostly a Blessing

Being an INFJ Mother or Father

When I first became a mother, I had no idea I was an INFJ personality type, but looking back, I can now understand why I struggled so much. Being a mom is hard enough, but being and INFJ mom (or dad) poses some unique challenges. Fortunately, it also has some incredible benefits. As an INFJ mom, these values were important to me: always be true to yourself, do your best, be honest, and do the right thing. And, be in the moment (especially difficult for INFJs, so still learning). A Creative Side to INFJ Parents There are no downsides to […]

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An INFJ’s Freedom to Say No

Freedom to say NO.

It has recently occurred to me that I am a people-pleaser who always says “yes”, and there are times when I should say “no”. When I go against meeting my own needs, I’m sacrificing a little of myself each time for the sake of the greater good – harmony.  Also, it’s just easier to say yes. Why? Because saying no often has repercussions. Setting boundaries can be difficult for an INFJ. It involves approaching someone and then actually verbally discussing the boundary, which can create the potential for conflict. And as an INFJ, I don’t want conflict in my life. […]

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MIA Due to Trauma & Injury

Why I've been missing in action.

I wanted to give you a brief overview on why I haven’t been blogging for the last several months. It wasn’t out of choice, but trauma and circumstance. I will go into details later, as I’m not ready to do that just yet. My last post, about attending a blog conference was in April. Literally, on my last day in California, I got word that my grandmother wasn’t doing well, so I went home, unpacked and repacked, and headed immediately to Seattle to see her. Unfortunately, the day I arrived at the hotel I was staying at, I slipped and […]

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How the Reverse Bucket List Promotes Confidence, Motivation, and Gratitude

How to write a Reverse #Bucketlist

Being and introverted INFJ, sometimes I feel like I don’t do “big things”, which is ok, but I don’t want to look back and realize that I’ve lived a small life. I may be in my 40s, but there are still things I want to do. Bucket lists are fine for that, but there are times when they feel like it’s more of a “to do list” hanging over my head, haunting me with the fact that I still  haven’t done them. This can make me feel unaccomplished when the items don’t get crossed off in a timely manner. Buckets […]

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