Introvert Song Lyrics for Every Frame of Mind

Introvert song lyrics.

I’ve written about how music and introverts are intimately connected, but I thought it might be fun to share some of my favorite song lyrics that I’ve grown to love over the (many, many) years that understand the introvert in me. What makes these song lyrics special is that not only can I relate to them, but they speak directly to my introverted soul. Some lyrics are light and hopeful, some are nostalgic, and others allowed me to sit in my dark place when I needed to, but all are me, in the most genuine and profound way. Lyrics that […]

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Can you hardwire happiness?

Hardwiring happiness.

It’s no surprise that I research obsessively, because I’m an INFJ, and being this personality type also suggests that I’m an avid reader, which I am. It did surprise me, though, when Hardwiring Happiness showed up in my life right when I needed it. It’s not the type of book I usually go for. *Disclaimer: As an Amazon Associate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases. This post contains affiliate links, which means you may be contributing to my tea-drinking addiction if you purchase goods through these links. šŸ˜‰ I bounce around from self-help and psychology to young adult fiction/fantasy and […]

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Natural Anxiety Tools and Remedies to Start Today

Unfortunately, I’ve been dealing with anxiety for a long time, mostly surrounding worry and fear of the unknown. This indicates excessiveness and a tendency to live in the future, which is pretty standard for my INFJ personality type. Fortunately, there are plenty of easy, free anxiety tools at my disposal. Anxiety can also come in the form of panic, different phobias, social anxiety, or any other form of anxiety that falls somewhere in between, like separation anxiety. You may or may not know the cause of your anxiety. It could be genetics, trauma- or fear-based, learned behavior, drugs or medications, […]

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How to Make Friends with an INFJ

How an INFJ can make friends.

As an INFJ, it can be difficult to make friends because we’re already highly selective of who we choose to befriend, and tend to be better listeners than conversationalists. That is, unless you get us talking about something you know we’re passionate about. Of course, you’d have to know us well enough to know our passions. I know. It’s a conundrum. So, how do you really get to know an INFJ to the point of creating a friendship?Ā And, how can an INFJ get out of their own way to make a new and meaningful friendships? INFJs Tend to Play it […]

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Being an INFJ Mother is Mostly a Blessing

Being an INFJ Mother or Father

When I first became a mother, I had no idea I was an INFJ personality type, but looking back, I can now understand why I struggled so much. Being a mom is hard enough, but being and INFJ mom (or dad) poses some unique challenges. Fortunately, it also has some incredible benefits. As an INFJ mom, these values were important to me: always be true to yourself, do your best, be honest, and do the right thing. And, be in the moment (especially difficult for INFJs, so still learning). A Creative Side to INFJ Parents There are no downsides to […]

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An INFJ’s Freedom to Say No

Freedom to say NO.

It has recently occurred to me that I am a people-pleaser who always says “yes”, and there are times when I should say “no”. When I go against meeting my own needs, I’m sacrificing a little of myself each time for the sake of the greater good – harmony.  Also, it’s just easier to say yes. Why? Because saying no often has repercussions. Setting boundaries can be difficult for an INFJ. It involves approaching someone and then actually verbally discussing the boundary, which can create the potential for conflict. And as an INFJ, I don’t want conflict in my life. […]

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How the Reverse Bucket List Promotes Confidence, Motivation, and Gratitude

How to write a Reverse #Bucketlist

Being and introverted INFJ, sometimes I feel like I don’t do “big things”, which is ok, but I don’t want to look back and realize that I’ve lived a small life. I may be in my 40s, but there are still things I want to do. Bucket lists are fine for that, but there are times when they feel like it’s more of a “to do list” hanging over my head, haunting me with the fact that I still Ā haven’t done them. This can make me feel unaccomplished when the items don’t get crossed off in a timely manner. Buckets […]

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Setting Boundaries to Protect the INFJ Relationship

Setting boundaries to protect INFJ relationships.

Most INFJs are all about people, so it’s no surprise that I’veĀ struggled with setting boundaries with certain people in my life. Unfortunately, this can breed resentment and even avoidance, in some cases, so it’s better to deal with it rather than internalizing it, as many INFJ personality types often do. I want you to consider the people in your life that you struggle to be around. The ones who are repeatedly hurtful or harmful, whether it is intentional or not. You may already feel trepidatious around these people, and that is a clue that you need to set boundaries to […]

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