Being an INFJ Mother is Mostly a Blessing

Being an INFJ Mother or Father

When I first became a mother, I had no idea I was an INFJ personality type, but looking back, I can now understand why I struggled so much. Being a mom is hard enough, but being and INFJ mom (or dad) poses some unique challenges. Fortunately, it also has some incredible benefits. As an INFJ mom, these values were important to me: always be true to yourself, do your best, be honest, and do the right thing. And, be in the moment (especially difficult for INFJs, so still learning). A Creative Side to INFJ Parents There are no downsides to […]

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An INFJ’s Freedom to Say No

Freedom to say NO.

It has recently occurred to me that I am a people-pleaser who always says “yes”, and there are times when I should say “no”. When I go against meeting my own needs, I’m sacrificing a little of myself each time for the sake of the greater good – harmony.  Also, it’s just easier to say yes. Why? Because saying no often has repercussions. Setting boundaries can be difficult for an INFJ. It involves approaching someone and then actually verbally discussing the boundary, which can create the potential for conflict. And as an INFJ, I don’t want conflict in my life. […]

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MIA Due to Trauma & Injury

Why I've been missing in action.

I wanted to give you a brief overview on why I haven’t been blogging for the last several months. It wasn’t out of choice, but trauma and circumstance. I will go into details later, as I’m not ready to do that just yet. My last post, about attending a blog conference was in April. Literally, on my last day in California, I got word that my grandmother wasn’t doing well, so I went home, unpacked and repacked, and headed immediately to Seattle to see her. Unfortunately, the day I arrived at the hotel I was staying at, I slipped and […]

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How the Reverse Bucket List Promotes Confidence, Motivation, and Gratitude

How to write a Reverse #Bucketlist

Being and introverted INFJ, sometimes I feel like I don’t do “big things”, which is ok, but I don’t want to look back and realize that I’ve lived a small life. I may be in my 40s, but there are still things I want to do. Bucket lists are fine for that, but there are times when they feel like it’s more of a “to do list” hanging over my head, haunting me with the fact that I still  haven’t done them. This can make me feel unaccomplished when the items don’t get crossed off in a timely manner. Buckets […]

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INFJ Pet Peeves and Setting Boundaries to Preserve Friendship

INFJs need stronger #boundaries with certain people. #INFJ

Most INFJs are all about people, so it’s no surprise that at least half of my pet peeves are going to be about the behavior of others. When it comes to some people, we may find that setting boundaries is necessary to keep the peace, and to improve, or save, the relationship. In other cases, our pet peeves are just minor irritations that quickly pass without incident, and are just a normal stress of everyday life. INFJ Pet Peeves Pet peeves are things that are especially annoying to people. Things that go against our grain, so to speak. I’m an […]

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